Boise Men's Psychotherapist Blog

  This entry was posted on Thursday, January 21st, 2021 at 6:16 pm “Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times.” G. Michael Hopf, Those Who Remain

  This entry was posted on Wednesday, November 11th, 2020 at 10:47 pm I have consistently battled with self-doubt. In my darkest of times, self-doubt was a lingering, malevolent voice in my head creating a narrative that I believed. I always believed myself a failure, a loser, worthless to society and better off gone. It was chaos, both internally and externally. In 2017 something would happen that would unlock much of the chaos and bring a sense of order that I had never really felt I knew. Internal chaos has been a theme for much of my life. My problem was in the inability to find a healthy balance of chaos / order to combat the internal struggles. In 2003 I would have an “aha” moment that would begin the process of unlocking so much struggle. In 2003 I was coming out of the darkest time of my life, while being confronted with a light that I had never known. A random man, never knowing he had done it, unlocked a passage that would truly give me hope. This man talked to me about g...

  This entry was posted on Wednesday, October 7th, 2020 at 6:39 pm I am a big fan of Jordan Peterson, PhD. I spent so much of my life struggling to find meaning, taking more than giving, and ultimately leading down some dark paths. I cannot recommend Dr. Peterson’s book enough, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos.

  This entry was posted on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019 at 6:55 pm Confidence and security are such an interesting thing. After doing this for approximately 17 years I still think about the first client that I ever worked with. Upon finishing the program that he was in; he would go on to thank you me for everything that I did to help him. It was my first time getting a thank you in a situation such as this and thus I overthought it and then told him, “it was all you I didn’t do anything you did everything.” He looked at me with a determined look and said directly, “you can’t take a compliment, can you?” He was right, and therefore the reason I never forgot it. It would not be the last time that someone would hit me between the eyes with truth. I’m at much more peace now in my life than I’ve ever been and as a result, hearing someone thank me does not leave me making excuses, in fact, it leaves me deeply honored. Now, I actually embrace their words of thanks, make sure to let them...

  This entry was posted on Thursday, November 7th, 2019 at 1:31 am My 9-year-old daughter and I are having a very difficult time. By difficult, I mean that we are getting into verbal disputes regularly. This morning surprisingly did not involve me, but like I probably due to often, I involved myself. In doing so, I altered the course of my day and my daughter’s day. At the same time, my son is flipping his lid because we don’t have any Bel-Vita’s (the breakfast of choice for a good run now). Great day so far. I wish I had some great story where I came in, handled it appropriately, and all was resolved. No, I overreacted, I yelled, I said silly things, thus leading both my kids to “have a great day at school!”, while I put on a fake smile and try to act like all is well. Not a proud moment for sure. So, what did I do? I Amazoned the stupid freaking Bel-Vita’s………and in doing so, I immediately thought of how soft, weak, powerless, etc., etc., etc. The reality is that my daughter and I...

  This entry was posted on Thursday, October 31st, 2019 at 5:42 pm What do you want to do? Simple enough question…….with a whole host of anxieties, insecurities, hopes, dreams, fears all wrapped into one. This was a deeply challenging question for, that was not answered until around 27 for me. Some people would say that was late, other people would say that they wished that had happened. Regardless, no matter what stage of life you are in, its never too late to ask yourself. Below is an article I came across that posits, “Not Sure What to Do With Your Life? Richard Branson Says Start by Asking These 2 Simple Questions.” https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/how-to-choose-career-business-idea-richard-branson.html