Boise Men's Psychotherapist Blog

  This entry was posted on Monday, May 27th, 2019 at 5:57 pm I came across this article through a trusted friend and found it a great reminder of what I need to do in order to be happy……. more importantly to try and sustain some peace. Below are the bullet points, but the article is much richer than simple bullet points. 1)      Make little changes in your daily routine a.       In my experience it is rarely BIG changes we have to make in our life, but rather small changes that result in the BIG gains/goals. 2)      Read more books a.       If you are being honest with yourself, there has never been a better time to read (and this is coming from someone that has NEVER been a good reader). b.       We have the ability to go to the library (free books), the old school way (purchase a book), and more of a newer school way (audio books). c.       Any way you look at it, there really are no excuses. 3)      Find your right fit or match, both personally and professionally a.       Let’s be h

  This entry was posted on Wednesday, May 22nd, 2019 at 6:04 pm At work, I have felt a level of success that I have rarely felt at home. I struggle at home, as a husband, as a father, heck, even as a son. In my struggles at home I have tended to point fingers, struggled with taking ownership, battled resentment, wrestled with my insecurity, and left too many times feeling depressed. Marriage is hard, and I think that my wife would say the same thing. Marriage is hard, especially when I am feeling hurt and weak, and it is even harder when I am unable (or unwilling) to be vulnerable in my difficult time. So, if you feel like you are unable to talk openly and genuinely, well, what do we tend to do……. we isolate. So now, not only is my marriage struggling, now I am isolating in it and not resolving anything. Having kids is hard, and I think that my wife would also say the same thing. I have not felt really successful as a father. I have felt guilty, I have felt shame, I have felt anger, re

  This entry was posted on Tuesday, May 14th, 2019 at 5:27 pm I don’t know why my mom got me into sports, but I thank God she did. I loved sports; I love sports still. I can remember the smell of Saturday morning grass on the field, to this day as soon as I smell it, it harkens me back to the days of playing on teams. Soccer, baseball, basketball, tennis, diving, swimming, golf, etc. I tried them all, and in each was a freedom of performance, coupled with an insecurity to perform. Sports came easy for me, physically. Mentally, a different story. I was anxious, insecure, arrogant (in my opinion, the opposite of confident), and I was isolated in it. You did not talk about it, certainly not to other teammates…….at least I did not. I was a leader, and well, leaders did not show weakness (at least what I thought). I believe I am a better sports parent than I was as an athlete. I want my kids to try every sport. I want them to try everything, whether sports or not, in order to find those thi

  This entry was posted on Thursday, May 9th, 2019 at 3:34 pm 4 Simple Breathing Practices To Relieve Stress & Tension ( Florence Paro t) It’s easy to get stressed from day-to-day to-do lists and ongoing projects. It’s helpful to have some expert-approved techniques to calm your nervous system so you can recharge for what’s to come. Sophrology is a wellness philosophy that blends teachings from Western and Eastern meditation practices to provide mental and physical relaxation. Florence Parot, an expert in stress management and author of the new book  The Sophrology Method , helps people to tune into their body and environment for greater clarity, relaxation, and resilience. In this excerpt from her new book, you’ll learn four simple breathing and movement practices for releasing stress. No matter the time of day or situation, these are sure to help you unwind. 1. Shoulder pumping Five minutes This dynamic relaxation exercise is one of my personal favorites for stress-busting. It al