Boise Men's Psychotherapist Blog

  This entry was posted on Monday, March 15th, 2021 at 9:42 pm My only goal in life was to be rich. I always figured that if I was rich then I would have everything I wanted…….no challenges, money to do whatever I wanted, and I assume a level of success. I had everything I needed right there in front of me. There was one major problem though, I had no belief in myself, no plan on how to accomplish anything, no interests that I recognized as positive and not self-destructive, and no discipline. What the hell do we do with that? I gave up. Over, and Over, and Over, and Over again. In fact, I say I am an expert at only two things in this world, me/myself, and quitting (because of all of the times I quit when things got hard). Jordan Peterson is one of my absolute favorite people. His pragmatic thought processes provide such a beneficial support structure to build resiliency, discipline, and those steps to do good in life. Dr. Peterson’s wisdom is simple, but the practical steps it tak...

  This entry was posted on Thursday, March 11th, 2021 at 8:25 pm When I was in my early 20’s I was at a department store. If I remember correctly, I was simply returning something that my mom had gotten for me. I don’t remember there being a level of stress as that is not what stand out. As I approached the counter to pay, my vision started to become altered. My heart began beating harder and faster then I have ever felt. I was losing it, right in front of these people. “Don’t pay attention…..you can get through this…..this is nothing…..etc.” ran through my head. Next, it felt like walls were closing in on me as my eyesight began to close. In a moment, I dropped everything on the counter and ran to the bathroom where I would be perched on the toilet, praying to any God that would hear me, to please take this from me. It would be years later when I would learn that this was a panic attack. It was a terribly frightening experience for me. Anxiety is all about chaos in the brain and t...

This entry was posted on Thursday, February 25th, 2021 at 7:27 pm   Why So Many Boys Today Don’t Become Men

  This entry was posted on Thursday, February 11th, 2021 at 11:55 pm Dr. Jordan Peterson is one of my most favorite people. Quite truthfully, the way that he talks is far over my head sometimes, but he nails the simple things. So many men that I have the pleasure of working with are, well, workers. What I mean is that there is the side to so many men that want to fix things, so they put their head down and get to work. The problem, what happens when that is not effective? What do you do now? Below are some simple strategies to begin to invest into your EVERYDAY life, instead of just when things are going poorly. These are NOT going to fix everything, but this is a great start to putting yourself in a position to be more effective in your daily life. • Stand up straight with your shoulders back o Correcting posture boosts confidence and self-esteem, which others notice as well. • Treat yourself like someone you’re responsible for helping o You would do anything for the people you lo...