Boise Men's Psychotherapist Blog

  This entry was posted on Wednesday, June 13th, 2018 at 8:00 pm Have you ever felt like nothing is changing, that you are not getting any better and you why you can’t make anything work! What do you do that challenges you, digs deeply into your ego, forces you into a level of humility? Having a real level of humility is one of the most difficult things to develop because it means facing your authentic fears, your true insecurities, and not turning around or making excuses. Everything in you fights against it due to years of pride that have been built upon a weak foundation that might have led you to a false sense of personal ability. Most of us start the effort towards change within adulthood, after we have succumbed to bad habits and tough life lessons from our past. We can reinvent, or we can continue to be dwarfed by the moment.

  This entry was posted on Thursday, June 7th, 2018 at 5:53 pm “I have a belief that all human greatness is founded upon routine, that truly great human behavior is impossible without this central part of your life being set up and governed by routine. All greatness comes out of an investment in time and the perfection of skills that render you great. And so, show me almost any truly great person in the world who exhibits some kind of extraordinary skills, and I’ll show you a person whose life is governed largely by routine.” (John Danaher – Excerpt from The Way of the Fight by Georges St. Pierre) John Danaher, the man that this quote is attributed too, has been acknowledged by many in the martial arts community as being a master and brain of the art of jiu-jitsu. Danaher is a highly intelligent individual, who has a Master’s degree in philosophy from Columbia University, and is totally focused on evolution and improvement. The reason I talk so much about jiu-jitsu is that I have n...

  This entry was posted on Wednesday, May 23rd, 2018 at 1:47 pm “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.” (Tim Tebow) The name Tim Tebow has been known for a while now, mostly because of his exploits on the athletic field, and most recently for his giving off of it. I am a very proud graduate of the University of Florida, and so Tim Tebow holds a special place in my heart and mind because of the great things he accomplished while at UF. For as long as I can remember, I have been fascinated by the idea of mental strength, whether it is in athletes, performers, or anyone who has achieved a high level of success. I know that there has been this deep allure because I never ever believed that I possessed mental strength. I have listened to countless interviews with people that I believed possessed almost otherworldly mental strength in hopes that one day it might rub off on me. Over the last 15 years, one of the things that I have found so eye-opening is that when I listen...

  This entry was posted on Tuesday, May 29th, 2018 at 9:41 pm When I think of the word authentic, what comes to mind is shows like Pawn Stars. The reason I think of this is because when a customer inevitably finds out that something is not a fraud (aka, “authentic”), the value inevitably goes up. Same as in relationships. One of the things that makes my job so meaningful to me is that when my door shuts, I get to see a level of vulnerability and authenticity that most people do not. As the sessions progress, and hopefully I have worked on really listening to the person across from me, the authenticity reveals itself more. The reality is that we live in a world where authenticity is not always safe. Depending on whom the person is across from us will most likely determine what mask we choose to use. If its my boss, I choose this mask; my friends, this mask; neighbor, spouse, co-worker, and on and on and on. But then something happens. We have a moment of breakthrough with any one of...

  This entry was posted on Monday, May 21st, 2018 at 1:51 pm I have started a podcast entitled, “The Human Chess Project.” It Is my small opportunity to interview people that interest me with the hope to provide encouragement, guidance, and potentially resources for others. You can find The Human Chess Project podcast on any of the outlets that you use (iTunes, Spotify, Google Play Music, SoundCloud, etc.). This is a new venture for me, so hopefully you will stick it out through the initial challenges. I appreciate and hope to bring you impactful content. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-human-chess-project-podcast/id1387034339 http://thehumanchessproject.libsyn.com/