(Anyone) Change

 This entry was posted on Wednesday, February 13th, 2019 at 4:14 pm


How many of us want to change? Or, lets be honest, how many of us say we want things to change……..from the comfort of our couch and yet don’t do anything to sustain that change. In order to make real change, you have to put movement towards it. Change is a verb, meaning, if I want something to change, I have to be willing to make steps towards the change I am seeking.

Inaccurate/False thinking:

  • Change is motivated by FEAR and the strongest force for change is crisis, which creates the greatest fear

Three Keys to lasting change (i.e. new hope, new skills, new thinking)

  • RELATE
    • You form a new, emotional relationship with a person or community that inspires and sustains hope
    • If you face a situation that a reasonable person would consider “hopeless”, you need the influence of seemingly “unreasonable” people to restore your hope – to make you believe that you can change and expect that you will change
  • REPEAT
    • The new relationship helps you learn, practice, and master the new habits and skills that you’ll need (i.e. training)
  • REFRAME
    • The new relationship helps you learn new ways of thinking about your situation and your life
    • Ultimately, you look at the world in a way that would have been so foreign to you that it wouldn’t have made any sense before you changed

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