January 1st, time to make some SMART Goals for 2019

 This entry was posted on Wednesday, January 2nd, 2019 at 12:08 am


Ahhhhh, January 1st, that time of year when we decide we are going to make some changes (“I’m going to get in shape this year!!”). The time of year when the gym has their sales people essentially sitting at the front door because they know that memberships are going to skyrocket. At the age of 43 now, my goals have shifted a bit and have become more realistic.

Here’s the thing, so many of the goals we put out there are simply not realistic, meaning when we fall off it simply contributes to those crappy   feelings / beliefs we may already have. So, instead of setting some goals that are not likely to be achieved, lets look at this whole thing more pragmatically. This year, my challenge to you is to make goals that are S.M.A.R.T.

S – Specific

M – Measurable

A – Attainable (or achievable)

R – Realistic

T – Time-Sensitive

For the sake of transparency, I’m going to share some of the goals I am seeking to attain in 2019.

Jiu-Jitsu (attend 100 times)

Cardio (100 times for a minimum of 20 minutes)

No Alcohol Days (175 days)

Sex (52 times)

·       According to David Schnarch, PhD, through a study conducted with more than 20,000 couples, he found that only 26% of couples are hitting the          once-a-week mark, with the majority of the respondents reporting sex only once or twice a month, or less!

·       We can be uncomfortable discussing it, but the reality is that if we are having sex more often in our relationships, than we are more likely to also            be communicating and tapping into each other’s “love languages” more often.

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If you want to make some changes in 2019, remember that “change” is a verb.

For more insight, check out my previous blog about what I believe you need to keep that engine running more effectively. Blessings to each and every one of you in 2019.

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