Boise Men's Psychotherapist Blog

  This entry was posted on Thursday, December 6th, 2018 at 3:14 pm I’m not exactly sure when it started, but at an early age, from time to time, I had this image of my funeral and wondered if anyone would be there. I recognize that this is a bit of a dark thought, but it is reality. When I was younger and struggling deeply, I would imagine my mom standing over my grave, heartbroken. The picture in my minds eye of my mom weeping would absolutely destroy my insides, leaving me weeping outwardly. Quite truthfully, in my darkest times, it was this minds eye picture that would barely push me to push through. As I listened to this video ( https://youtu.be/2fG1AWTZrE0 ) this morning, I was reminded of my own death and what it will look like. When I watched and listened to George W talk about George HW I was deeply moved, more than anything at the end when a son was overcome with the deep emotion and welling of love that is now gone. We should all be so lucky. We should all be so lucky to ...

  This entry was posted on Monday, December 3rd, 2018 at 6:28 pm As someone that has battled with depressive tendencies, I think that Johann Hari’s thoughts are interesting and unique. I will say that he is not a clinician, which I think is a good thing in that he gives perspective from his own experiences. Is everything you think you know about depression wrong?

  This entry was posted on Wednesday, November 28th, 2018 at 3:36 pm It was in the early morning of February 2006 when my wife and I got up thinking that it was going be like most Saturday mornings. On this particular Saturday it was no different, aside from the overcast and cold conditions outside, which was somewhat odd for Atlanta.  After our daily routine of coffee making, we turned the television on and came across the news of the Coretta Scott King’s passing and viewing that would be held on this day. We had both heard about Mrs. King throughout the week, as she had recently passed away. As we sat watching the news, my wife looked at me and said quite unabashedly, “let’s go!” Quite honestly, my first reaction was hesitation and resistance, but then minutes later, on a whim we were off to the viewing.  It was strange, but we both had this giddy excitement as we were driving to go see a dead body.  Upon arriving, the weather had gotten worse with the wind blowing...

This entry was posted on Monday, November 19th, 2018 at 2:44 pm Regret = feeling sad, repentant, or disappointed over something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity. I don’t know about you, but for me regret is the worst thing, personally, because I cannot change it. So, if you know someone that is struggling, DO NOT WAIT, or you might know real regret. If you are the person that is really struggling, then DO NOT WAIT, or you might never know real peace. Suicide Prevention for Men  

  This entry was posted on Thursday, November 15th, 2018 at 4:10 pm I am not naturally inclined to try new things. Quite truthfully, I was the pain in the butt child that when asked to try something new to eat that immediately stated, “no!”. No good reason other than a resistance to try new things. I was pretty decent physically at sports, so trying new sports was not a big deal because my arrogance could push me physically to be able to compete. I think that most of us have a resistance to trying something new. The problem with that though is that only doing things that you are good at does nothing to push you to new levels as a person. I started doing martial arts because I did not want to feel weak as a man. As a result, I have been very bad at jiu-jitsu for about 1.5 years……but, even though I know this, the idea for me is to keep showing up because the process of pushing myself through my own insecurities that tell me how bad I am (or, lets be honest, how much I suck at it) are...